What are your thoughts on dependence? Financial dependence, women (stay at home mom's) or women in marriages where the husband makes more $$ so the wife is financially dependent. Adults being financially dependent on parents, those kind of things.
Let's first look at the definition for dependence: the state of relying on or needing someone or something for aid, support or the like. When I apply the definition to the questions above it comes down to these questions for me. What are you choosing? What action can you take to change your circumstances? What is it you truly want? Do I have the ability to be independent? Are you honoring your values and desires? What is the cost of being dependent, now, 5 yrs from now, 10 yrs from now?
The opposite of dependence is independence. For example if you have worked for years and are choosing to stay at home while your husband works, this can be a positive situation. You can focus on looking after your kids and spend time doing things that bring you joy. On the other hand if you made a choice, years ago to stay home while your kids grew up. You may be feeling the need to go out and work and rediscover yourself and develop new relationships. It all depends on what is true for you. As I've said before I believe we are on a journey to discover who we already are at our core. This involves working through and shedding the layers. Even the smallest action can move us towards our goals and create tremendous momentum. It comes down to examining your beliefs and getting clear on your values and desires. I believe we always have choices that can create a new reality for ourselves. Sometimes we just need to take that first step.
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